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Topic: Old and New – “Athu Appo, Ethu Ippo” This was a very interesting topic given to us by our Madyamar Group Administrator – comparing how marriage alliances were arranged in the past versus how it happens today. Earlier Days: In those days, the process of seeing a girl for marriage was quite a formal and traditional affair. The boy would go to see the girl accompanied not only by his parents but also importantly by his uncle and aunt. It was customary for the extended family to be present during the match-making process. Most of the time, the boy would agree to marry the girl chosen by his parents and elders, trusting their judgment and blessings. Only in rare cases would a boy say no. Today’s Style: Nowadays, the process has become simpler and more direct, thanks to technology and changing mindsets. With the influence of the IT era, boys and girls often get to know each other directly—through work, friends, or online platforms—and decide for themselves if they want to marry. Once both agree, the families meet and give their blessings. This gives both the individuals more say in their life partner selection. My Experience: In my personal experience, when it came time to look for a groom for my daughter, we followed a slightly traditional approach. The horoscope of my daughter was shared, and the boy’s family came to meet us. Both families liked each other, and more importantly, the boy and girl also liked each other and gave their consent. Everyone was happy. That was the first alliance we considered for my daughter—and it clicked. Interestingly, she was also the first girl seen by my son-in-law. This happened 23 years ago, and the marriage has been successful and happy. Even today, while many have adopted modern methods, some families still maintain the old formula, valuing tradition and family involvement in matchmaking. K.Ragavan